I think everyone knows about the urgency of the problem of infertility today. Both state and private clinics are engaged in solving these issues, since a rather large number of couples need help.

Most couples who seek help with infertility issues consider their state of health the main problem. But it is also worth remembering how important the psychological state of partners is for conception. With the rapid development of medicine and reproductive technologies, the physiological causes of infertility are being diagnosed more and more accurately, but the psychological ones, as a rule, are not immediately visible to both specialists and the patients.

So is the phenomenon of psychological infertility a real thing? Is there scientific evidence that psychological, emotional state affects the ability to get pregnant? Experts say that psychological infertility really exists. Since the nervous system plays a significant role in the regulation of all body processes, the ability to bear children depends not only on the state of the reproductive system, but also on the psyche. Emotional stress can affect pregnancy. Various conflicts, and difficulties at work, and misunderstanding with a partner or even an obsessive desire to have a child may contribute to psychological infertility. Also, thoughts of “childlessness” and feelings of inferiority can cause stress. Prolonged stress can weaken the immune system, lead to hormonal changes, and reduce the likelihood of conception. Although it will not be possible to diagnose it.

It is believed that 30% of infertile couples cannot conceive due to psychological reasons. And there can be a huge variety of reasons for this, since they are very individual. Often, understanding the reasons, discovering them in the past experience, living them through, realizing them, can help to conceive a baby. The reasons may be divorce of parents, traumatic events, loss of loved ones, painful relationship with one of the parents, anxiety, fears, bad pregnancy or childbirth experience, fear of the future, and much more. Also, infantility, immaturity of partners may prevent them from becoming parents.

In today’s reality, the desire to fulfil oneself professionally, to build a career can increasingly be the cause of psychological infertility. Women want to achieve success in many areas on an equal basis with men. They want to give birth to a child, but at the same time, it’s scary to leave career. What if this will lead to loneliness, isolation from society for a while, possibly to material difficulties. And despite external efforts, a woman may not be subconsciously ready to have a child. If a woman feels that she cannot protect her baby, then conception may not occur.

Various fears associated with pregnancy itself can prevent a woman from becoming a mother. It can be fear of losing pregnancy, fear of giving birth to a sick baby, fear of childbirth, fear of changing the figure (body) and much more.

In general, psychological causes are not always easily recognized and eliminated in fertility treatments. They are more common among active business women over 30-35 years old who work in intellectual or creative fields. Therefore, sometimes the correct medical treatment does not give the expected results. Usually it is possible to detect the psychological factor when a woman has a trusting relationship with a doctor (reproductologist) and a psychologist. Sometimes the psychological factor of infertility is not taken into account by the doctor or couple. But it is important for the woman / couple to realize the possible psychological reasons and to accept them, because this can help them become parents.

  • Women who cannot get pregnant, should try to let go of the thoughts of the baby for a while, because obsession with childbirth and negative emotions experienced at the sight of other people’s children cause them stress. Try to distract yourself – art therapy, hobbies, travel, creativity, other duties. And, of course, it is best to turn to specialists for help.
  • Try to listen to yourself, ask yourself why you need a child. The motives of conception are important for the internal “resolution”. The desire to have a child should be selfless.
  • Try to reduce emotional worries about not getting pregnant, reduce control, feelings of guilt. Everything in its due time.
  • Look for positive moments – there is time to prepare for parenting, take care of your health, and finish other things.
  • Try to “draw” a colorfully and brightly positive image of carrying a baby and childbirth.
  • Learn to relax – massage, swimming pool, relaxing bath, music, creativity may help.
  • Do not focus only on conception – live fully! Everyone has their own Path, and children will come to you when you are ready for them.